Hi everyone, I know I have taken a bit of a hiatus from my usual content, so to get back into the swing of things I would like to share something with you all that I had written for a body positivity group I was part of for a few weeks!
A quick disclaimer, when I reference the body/appearance ideal, it refers to the “perfect woman/person” whose unachievable qualities society expects us to emulate.
Dear younger me,
Stop. Stop while you’re ahead so you can save yourself from years of self loathing. Ignore all the voices you hear telling you you’re too fat. Ignore your family when they say you got a belly while on vacation and instead focus on the fun you had and the memories you made.
Stop being afraid to be “fat”. Your body needs fat to live so don’t stress about having it, it’s natural. You need to feed your body more than zero calorie foods, so please eat something that makes you feel good. That doesn’t mean you need to find something super unhealthy, just don’t restrict yourself.
Stop comparing yourself to the body ideal. Stop looking up pictures of Victoria’s Secret models and wishing you looked like them because even they don’t look like those images you see, thanks to Photoshop. Everyone has different body types and you should learn to appreciate your own. Celebrate your body and instead of focusing on making it thin, focus on making it strong.
Stop dating your boyfriend. He is bad for your self confidence and you shouldn’t listen to anything he says. He has grown up worshipping the appearance ideal and therefore does not and will not appreciate your body. If someone criticizes how much you eat or how much you weigh, that is not someone you need in your life.
Like I said before, start loving yourself. Eat things that make you appreciate food and drink things that aren’t water. Stop following pages that make you feel bad about yourself and start following pages that promote body positivity! You think other people, no matter the body type, look amazing so start sending that energy to yourself. Find things you like about yourself and flaunt it! Vanity is a capitalistic social construct designed to make people feel guilty for liking how they look and instead, buy products that will help them chase the appearance ideal. So screw what people say, screw the songs that glorify people who don’t know how beautiful they are and instead confidently love how you look. Start being the badass you are because hating your body and yourself is such a waste of time and happiness.